That Difficult Client Talk – Part IV.  Completion

Reggie started with a serious performance problem in his department. He said his staff was “under-performing”, and he was insistent that I find out what the problem was and “fix it”. So I did. The problem was Reggie. He was a technical whiz, but not a very good manager. Here’s what I mean: He was […]

That Difficult Client Talk – Part III.  Too Many Goals?

Dear Reggie, The “discussions” are working. Your people said that you are listening to them in a new way, and that should raise their performance. That was your original goal, wasn’t it? So here’s the next place to put your attention: your Step 3. I am hearing some confusion among your staff people – it’s […]

Un-Productive Communication – Let’s Ditch it for Now

Complaining. Blaming. Gossip. Those conversations are usually unproductive. The word “productive” comes from the ideas of “leading and moving forward”. In that sense, being productive is a good thing. Unproductive conversations are everywhere – they aren’t wrong, but they don’t produce much value. Complaining could be productive if you are committed to following through to […]

Cynicism and Resistance to Change – What Works?

Sometimes cynicism is a symptom of a problem from the past. It’s worth fixing both the problem and the symptom.

The Hard Work of Making Good Requests: Part II 

The first rule for getting what you want is to Pay Attention to spelling out exactly what you want. Then make a request for it.

The Power of Promising: Listener + Do + Due 

How to get yourself to Do something you don’t want to Do? Add a Listener and a Due date. Here’s how.

Integrity and Reliability – They’re Related

A local college teacher called last night and asked if I had another recommendation for a technical support person to help with his Public Speaking class, because the first guy I recommended wasn’t working out. Here’s how that dialogue went… Me: “What happened to Ed? I thought he was your guy for that?” Teacher: “Ed […]

Want Something? Get Specific.

Wishing is a waste of time. Invest some brainpower in getting clear about what matters.

Give Your Goals a Little “Infrastructure” for Success

You can make a resolution to reach a goal – just include a communication plan to support your successful change.

Attitude Can Cause Blindness and Ignorance

  After years of saying that a consultant’s job is not to change people’s attitudes, I might need to eat my words. Here’s what I learned from reviewing a Harvard Business Review case: a bad attitude can blind an employee – even a good one – from seeing who to communicate with and who needs […]